One of the problems many of us men have is that we stubbornly hold on to what is not working. Men have often been accused of not stopping to ask for directions when they are lost. We could probably all tell about an article of clothing that we have that wouldn't even make a good rag anymore. As fathers and expecially as Christian fathers we must honestly examine our lives and throw out the bad so that we can bring in more good.
Dr. Henry Cloud has written a book called Necessary Endings. He is not a member of the church, and this is not a "Christian" book, it is more along the lines of psychology and sociology. I have not read this book, although it is on my list, but I have heard him discuss it in an interview and I read an earlier book he wrote called Boundaries which is a must read for preachers and counselors and just about everyone who has a family member that is too involved in their lives. The point of Necessary Endings is that we have to stop doing things that do not work. One of the examples he gives is of GM and their Pontiac brand. They were finally forced to kill it off when they went into bankruptcy, but it had been losing money for over 20 years and they just kept going further and further into the hole. We sometimes do the same thing in our families.
Real leaders are strong enough to admit that they made mistakes and try something else. We usually are afraid to try anything different because we are afraid that it may not work. This is especially true of something that is working "kinda ok" even if we are sure there must be a better way. The better way may be different from anything we have done before and might be scary. If it doesn't work you can always go back to the kinda ok way until you find something better. The problem is giving it a real serious effort instead of a half-hearted try takes a lot of work. As Christians we should take commitment very seriously (to Christ, the Church, our spouse, our children, keeping our word, etc), but in some of these areas at home we think we have to commit to doing things a certain way for the rest of our lives. We can decide that we are going to try a certain budgeting technique, homeschooling curriculum, diet, schedule, etc. for a certain period of time, a year, 6 months, or whatever we decide on as a family.
Go ahead and try to make something better in your family.