It is said that even Christians often joke about how the wife or the children are really running the house. If it is not true, then it is in poor taste to joke about a sinful leadership arrangement in the home. If it is true, God does not think it is funny for people to ignore his hierarchy in exchange for their own or the one that is popular in society. If there are problems in your home in this area, it is not the time to lower the boom and put your wife and kids in their place. Rather than that the first step is to put Jesus in His place in your life and let them see the change in you, then you will be in a better position to be the leader of your home. 1Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
You can't expect those who should be in subjection to you to treat you with the proper respect if you are not treating those you should be in subjection to with the proper respect.